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What I've learned
Four features. The advice that stuck.
I've spent the last several months connecting with guys who’ve played at the highest level. First round picks. Grinders. A top prospect whose career was taken from him. Here's their advice, in their own words.
Jay Rainville
1st round pick, Minnesota Twins · #7 ranked HS player in the country
"Talent can make you great but you need more than talent to be elite. Elite players don't always need to talk — they lead by example."
"Every kid learns different. Every kid has different strengths and weaknesses. Not everyone is going to play high school, college or beyond. Make it fun, it's not that serious. They are kids.”
"I hated to lose. I always wanted to be the best in anything that I did. Hard work and determination were a big factor, but hating to lose was what really pushed me.”

The most competitive guy I ever faced is the one telling us coaches to make it fun, that contrast says everything about what actually matters.
Jim Foster
22nd round pick, Baltimore Orioles · Head coach, URI & Army West Point
"Others' opinions can't affect your attitude, effort, or performance. If you don't learn how to deal with that in college and pro ball, you have no shot."
"Don't push them to the point where their sport becomes a burden and they resent it later. It has to come from them."
"Parents overvalue travel ball, Perfect Game rankings, and Prep Baseball Report. Focus on family time, player development, teaching life lessons, and setting realistic goals."
"At 12, just play and have fun. At 15, get in the weight room, grades really matter. At 17, you have to decide what you want and go for it."
"The team with the best locker room wins. It has to come from them."

Jim Foster spent 10 years grinding through the minors, played alongside Hall of Famers, and never got the call. He still says he wouldn't trade a day in the big leagues for the family he has.
Perspective.
Nick Zammarelli
Seattle Mariners · Cape Cod League All-Star · Teammates with Julio Rodriguez & Kyle Lewis
"No one cares, work harder.” “That mentality taught me to never be complacent."
"Players develop at their own pace. Some things you just can't rush or force. Being the best player at 11 means nothing."
"Put yourself against the best. One at bat could change everything."
"Trust the process. The next pitch is far more important than the previous one. Don't be your own worst enemy. This game is hard enough as it is."
"When you hang those spikes up for the final time, walk away knowing you gave everything you could every time you stepped on that field. That's what matters."
Nick came from a small town, worked harder than most, and was one phone call away from the big leagues. It’s the mentality his father taught him that made the difference.
Ryan Westmoreland
Boston Red Sox · Top 21 prospect in baseball · Retired at 22
"I always want parents to think about their kids as more than 'the baseball player.' You're always more than one thing. A student, a son, a brother."
"At 12, it's so much more important for kids to be playing because they love it. It's about having fun, learning the game, and developing the right way."
"Practice doesn't make perfect, practice makes permanent. If you want something to be permanent, the key is repetition and doing things over and over the right way."
"I don't care to be remembered for my Single-A statistics. I want to be remembered by that little kid in the stands that I signed an autograph for. Your character cannot be taken away from you."
"There is so much more to life than your job or being successful at whatever you're doing. Baseball is a game. Regardless of what happens, there is more to life than just being a good baseball player."
Ryan was ranked ahead of Mike Trout as a top prospect and the lesson he wants every parent to hear is that their kid is more than a baseball player.
What I’ve Learned
Four players, four completely different paths and every single one of them came back to the same things:
Compete every day
Be coachable
Be a great teammate
Keep perspective
Love the process
Not one of them mentioned talent as the reason they're at peace with how things went.
That's what I've learned.
On Deck
Next week: Frank Leoni
What 35 + years in college baseball actually teaches you.

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-Coach Steve-

Steve Holmes
Founder, Inside the Dugout
2006 MLB Draft | All-American | Youth Coach | Dad
